Monday, February 22, 2016

Unless it's divine inspiration...

So baby is 31 weeks along now and Tom and I both have been asked numerous times if, "we have a name picked out".  Short answer is no, but it does not imply we do not have names we both like or have strong feelings about- it just means we (maybe mostly me) is NOT about labeling (not sure I like that word choice, it's so trendy and annoying) my kid before we meet on this side of the belly fat!

And please, there are names I am super passionate about and would LOVE to name my kids but because I'm open to the idea that upon their big entrance to this side of the fat-pad world and having a moment or two with their personality my beloved name may not fit who they already are and me still pushing it seems wrong and immature. Thus, the whole concept of naming your unborn child is, in my extremely humble opinion (NOT), completely ridiculous. Yeah, I said it. I totally just called out more people I know than not.

To me there are only three circumstances where having a name ready and waiting for impending child to be given happens correctly and doesn't invoke an eye roll from me:

#1.) Through a rare and divine spiritual experience where the name is given by angels- John (as in John the Baptist), Jesus, etc.
#2.) Closely related to #1where through prayer and personal revelation a name comes to mind and is confirmed by the Holy Ghost. (I kind of joked about wanting an experience like #1 and then actually had a #2 with Ben......(BEST SENTENCE EVER!)
#3.) Tradition. "I'm Fredrick Smith VII so I want to carry on and have a Fredrick Smith the VIII". In which case feels like a result from lack of imagination with naming or continuing a rare and notable legacy.

I have observed that naming your child months before birth doesn't stop at the name. It seems it comes with terms, such as: "Oh I know her/his name is suppose to be (blank) and he/she's going to be just like 'so-and-so' and shy/wild/smart/artistic/etc., etc., etc.  Hmmmm

"BUT BUT BUT what about the connotation that a Junior or a 'Fredrick Smith VIII' would have the same expectations??!" Okay calm the heck down- a junior or whatnot doesn't mean anything more than you were named after your dad and means nothing more than what parents already put on their kids; i.e., "You WILL go to college, you WILL be successful..."

Because I'm all about analyzing the crap out of everything, I simply (or deeply) think there's more going on than having a name picked out and wonder if people are self-aware enough to be asking themselves the same thing? I guess it comes from a place of faith with me. I do not believe our existence starts at birth, I believe our spirits/intelligences have been around a very long time and this life is a short moment of our potentials so maybe whatever name we get slapped to us here doesn't matter at all!? Probably. But I think there's something to be said for those who were preordained and who's names where important enough to be called-out before hand. But most importantly, I think everyone has a pretty amazing potential and what I HOPE to teach my children are the expected and unexpected benefits to being open and humble to the will of Heavenly Father and not our own expectations. NOO I'm not saying naming your baby before hand implies you are not following God's will or that by waiting and then naming makes one MORE faithful- I'm putting it out there I think naming deserves more thought then, "I've just always loved the name and knew I would name my kid it one day!" I get it, you're stubborn- hopefully that's NOT passed along to the kid ;)

Names I Love:
Rush : (Tom doesn't like- he thinks people will think of Rush Limbaugh, whom I think is awesome anyway so I don't care what people think especially when people name their kids made up names or using 3 E's to spell Amy! Do I have more people angry at me now?!)
Henry: Super cute and traditional (Tom thinks of Henry VIII and feels it's an old man name- WRONG!)

Names Tom Loves:
James: (Nope, overly used, too boring for me unless I'm trying to press boringness into my kid...)
Christopher: (I can NOT say the name without hearing a Soprano's character say it {Qua-ist-toe-fur}plus I'm not down with asexual names (Chris).

Name baby boy will actually be:
Don't know yet. Waiting to meet him first!

Okay here are some photos that have nothing to do with my rant!

Ben loves making cookies- he has a natural talent of perfectly placing the hershey into the peanut butter drops!
Just waving as the brave men/women at work

Tom geared-up Ben and we went to the park had ran Ben until he was tired. It took a LONG time! The boy can run just like daddy. Mommy was tired just walking from the car to the field!

Ben is so happy when dad comes home and mom is ready to get out of the house for awhile too- it's a WIN-WIN!

Friday, January 1, 2016

2015: A Year in Photos

(January) Ben growing even more sweet and very smart (not even in preschool and knows many of the letter sounds =)

(January-ish) His art work!

(February) Snow day! It was gone by 1pm but I lavished in the brisk cold air as long as I could
This was a few weeks before learning my entire department with Adidas was being dismantled 

First snowman xo

(March) Momma and Son time oh and I chopped my hair, I was a hair away from doing a Brittany Spears and shaving the whole thing off out but a diet DP saved me

Ben joined a soccer team and when he WASN'T playing on the bleachers or anywhere BUT the field he actually played soccer a few seconds each game

(Easter) Daddy & Son time.  

(June) Now unemployed but happy to be home with my Ben again! Not sure he's happy about it too though this WAS us on the Grassy-Knoll at the 6th Floor JKF Memorial so he was probably upset about that!

Grandma comes and takes Ben to his first ball game, the zoo and many visits to his favorite Mc E Dee's

It's always fun when Grandpa comes

And teaches the importances of gardening!

Having a hard time getting your kids to eat vegetables? Put them in liquid form and then freeze -DONE!

Ben got into zombies this year, BIG TIME!

(July) We found ourselves with two tragically dying vehicles (Saabs, no pun intended) worth only a couple hundred each. Tom studied long and hard to find the MOST high ranked economical domestic thing that was also in the lowest price range...Ford Fiesta, ugly as sin but has yet to give us problems (fingers crossed)

Tronier (TER-OWN-YEA) Family Reunion in Tennessee 

Waiting and waiting to ride!

The wait paid off! (Mom can't ride unless she wants to be mess up her back/neck more so she took the pictures and held purses...yay.)

Oh what do you do in the summer time when the pool is closed the first 3 weeks of August and most days before then too in Texas heat and feels like Satan's hot, sticky breath?? Ice Cream. Eat it or just spread it all over yourself. 

Oh look at that it's time to have another baby

Fish Taco. Take that Cafe Rio.

(September) After 18 months I HAVE to go home to Oregon!

Oregon Coast 

Ben's 4th birthday, loving playful and equally active cousins Seth, Madison, Triplets, and Joshua

Working on his mechanic skills

(October) Grandma White sends Ben packages and he loves them!

(November) Ben's first time going camping

(December) Walking around Texas' biggest Christmas store for fun and watching people drop several hundred dollars on decorations -I'd be jealous but I'll probably be THAT person some day ;)

Just chilling with Spiderman

My birthday with my favorite guys at my favorite restaurant 
Unfortunately, I puked it all up moments after getting home

Cheese pizza all to himself, so spoiled.

Tom still loves his job at Apple- yes he can hook you up with a discount and no he doesn't get a cent in commission and of course we pity all those who still pay a cent for any PC device

Tom's sister Marchet and I at a Christmas Eve Mass- Baptist style. I highly enjoyed it! Got to lite an actual candle in an actual church lol 

Christmas day at Aunt Cheri's. It was 75 degrees- GROSS!


End of 2012

End of 2013

End of 2014

End of 2015

Interestingly enough, losing 60-65% of our income due to being layed off and 2015 being our broke-est year yet we still managed to pay off the most within one year, not sure how that happened and we are still another 65K away but we're still actively in our mode of not living like everyone else so someday we will live like no one else! "keep on swimming, keep on swimming..."